After running a few little errands here and there I wanted to go into Marshalls to get a couple of little things for the upcoming weekend. This is nothing new to Kyle and Hailey. I take them with me everywhere, and that includes to shopping malls and stores. Of course we have our not-so-good days. Moments of meltdowns and tantrums. For the most part if/when they have one I address it, contain it, and or just leave. I have been known to leave a shopping cart full of groceries to address the situation with my children before. Today was different.
I should preface and admittedly take some responsibility. Kyle was grumpy before we went into the store. However, in my defense he usually will fall back to sleep in the back of the cart OR pep up and be the happy little cooperative boy I know and love.
Our journey through the store began fairly normal. The kids were walking by my side. We looked around and I got what I needed. Then they wanted to look in the toy section. Sure, why not?
The kids played with a few toys. Kyle adored a toy saxophone. Him and his music...... He played with it for a while, but when I told them to put the toys back (as I usually do, and they listen with no argument or hesitation) all HELL broke loose. He threw a tantrum like I had never seen before. I got on my knees and spoke with him. I tried to address the situation calm and cool. He was relentless! He wanted that saxophone like a thirsty man wants water. I needed to make my purchases.
I threw him in the back of the carriage and he cried, screamed and yelled. I could handle it. I recognized he was a three year old having a tantrum. It was everyone else in the store I couldn't handle! One man took out his phone and filmed us. Others just looked at me like: are you going to do ANYTHING about that?? I could handle my three year old. I could NOT handle all these strangers judging....and FILMING me!
When we got to the counter I checked out right away. I actually recall someone coming to the registers for only what I can assume was to get US out! I apologized to everyone around me. One man said "you should apologize, that behavior is horrible" Another man (the guy that filmed us) said "don't worry, you're a good Mom. We have all been there, I have grand kids." He even tried to show us pictures of his grand kids.....(not the time or the place Mister). His wife met him in the lobby and they offered to help me with the children to the car. I politely declined and put the kids into there seats.
Seriously, What is a Mom supposed to do? If you keep cool, if you explode, if you leave, if you don't leave....you are judged! These days sometimes you are even FILMED!!! All I can say is I handled it the best I knew how, calm, cool, collected, embarrassed and apologetic. This was on of those times that I understood why sometimes Mommies need a DRINK! =)
The kids played with a few toys. Kyle adored a toy saxophone. Him and his music...... He played with it for a while, but when I told them to put the toys back (as I usually do, and they listen with no argument or hesitation) all HELL broke loose. He threw a tantrum like I had never seen before. I got on my knees and spoke with him. I tried to address the situation calm and cool. He was relentless! He wanted that saxophone like a thirsty man wants water. I needed to make my purchases.
I threw him in the back of the carriage and he cried, screamed and yelled. I could handle it. I recognized he was a three year old having a tantrum. It was everyone else in the store I couldn't handle! One man took out his phone and filmed us. Others just looked at me like: are you going to do ANYTHING about that?? I could handle my three year old. I could NOT handle all these strangers judging....and FILMING me!
When we got to the counter I checked out right away. I actually recall someone coming to the registers for only what I can assume was to get US out! I apologized to everyone around me. One man said "you should apologize, that behavior is horrible" Another man (the guy that filmed us) said "don't worry, you're a good Mom. We have all been there, I have grand kids." He even tried to show us pictures of his grand kids.....(not the time or the place Mister). His wife met him in the lobby and they offered to help me with the children to the car. I politely declined and put the kids into there seats.
Seriously, What is a Mom supposed to do? If you keep cool, if you explode, if you leave, if you don't leave....you are judged! These days sometimes you are even FILMED!!! All I can say is I handled it the best I knew how, calm, cool, collected, embarrassed and apologetic. This was on of those times that I understood why sometimes Mommies need a DRINK! =)
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